ICDO Buy ICDO Gear at the ICDO CafePress Store!
Toggle Content Toggle Content
 
  Toggle Content
Menu:
 

  Toggle Content
User Info
 

Welcome Anonymous

Nickname
Password

Membership:
Latest: slayname
New Today: 0
New Yesterday: 0
Overall: 7912

People Online:
Members: 0
Visitors: 138
Total: 138
Who Is Where:
 Visitors:
01: Forums
02: Forums
03: Forums
04: Photo Gallery
05: Forums
06: Forums
07: Forums
08: Forums
09: Photo Gallery
10: Forums
11: Forums
12: Forums
13: Forums
14: Forums
15: Forums
16: Forums
17: Forums
18: Forums
19: Forums
20: Forums
21: Forums
22: Forums
23: Forums
24: Forums
25: Photo Gallery
26: Forums
27: Forums
28: Forums
29: Forums
30: Forums
31: Forums
32: Forums
33: Forums
34: Photo Gallery
35: Forums
36: Forums
37: Your Account
38: Forums
39: Forums
40: Forums
41: Forums
42: Forums
43: Forums
44: Forums
45: Forums
46: Forums
47: Forums
48: Forums
49: Forums
50: Forums
51: Forums
52: Forums
53: Forums
54: Photo Gallery
55: Forums
56: Forums
57: Forums
58: Forums
59: Forums
60: Photo Gallery
61: Photo Gallery
62: Forums
63: Forums
64: Forums
65: Forums
66: Forums
67: Forums
68: Forums
69: Forums
70: Forums
71: Forums
72: Photo Gallery
73: Forums
74: Forums
75: Forums
76: Forums
77: Forums
78: Forums
79: Photo Gallery
80: Forums
81: Surveys
82: Forums
83: Forums
84: Photo Gallery
85: Forums
86: Forums
87: Forums
88: Forums
89: Forums
90: Forums
91: Forums
92: Forums
93: Forums
94: Home
95: Forums
96: Forums
97: Forums
98: Photo Gallery
99: Forums
100: Photo Gallery
101: Forums
102: Forums
103: Forums
104: Forums
105: Forums
106: Forums
107: Photo Gallery
108: Forums
109: Forums
110: Forums
111: Forums
112: Photo Gallery
113: Photo Gallery
114: Forums
115: Forums
116: Forums
117: Forums
118: Forums
119: Forums
120: Photo Gallery
121: Forums
122: Photo Gallery
123: Forums
124: Forums
125: Forums
126: Photo Gallery
127: Photo Gallery
128: Photo Gallery
129: Forums
130: Photo Gallery
131: Forums
132: Photo Gallery
133: Photo Gallery
134: Forums
135: Photo Gallery
136: Forums
137: Photo Gallery
138: Forums

Staff Online:

No staff members are online!

  Toggle Content
Donations
 
Donate and suport ICDO!

 
Forums › General › Off Topic :: Archives › Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed... :: Archived

Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed...
Non Paintball Stuff Here!
Go to page 1, 2, 3  Next
Post new topic   Revive this topic   Printer Friendly Page     Forum IndexOff Topic
View previous topic :: View next topic  
Author Message
zinger565
ICDO Supporter
ICDO Supporter


Joined: Mar 11, 2006
Posts: 261
Location: Central Wisconsin...Where the cows ARE happy

PostPosted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 2:44 pm    Post subject: Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed...

Well, I figure since most of you are 30+ (at least according to the knee pad/jock strap thread anyways) you all would be decent group to ask/bounce ideas off of.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 years and a little bit. We're both in collage and attend UW-La Crosse. Her birthday is in August and I was thinking about proposing to her for her birthday. Now it would be a few years before we would begin to plan, because we've both got a couple years before we finish our respective programs and graduate. The way our relationship is going right now, both our families and our friends believe that us getting married is inevitable, as to her and I. So, in reality, I personally feel like proposing wouldn't change the relationship, there would just be physical evidence to the commitment.

My questions to you guys are:

Is this a good idea/too soon? I know that it would be quite a while (4-5 years) before we'd even begin to plan a wedding.

Any suggestions on where to get the ring?

How much is too much to spend on it?

Any ideas on how to do it? I've always prided myself on being romantically creative...but after 4 years of Birthdays, Christmases, Anniversaries and Valentines I'm pretty much plum out of ideas.

Thanks in advanced!

_________________
Class of 2009! Done!
Feedback
Back to top
View user's profile
Crash1976
Pro Thread Jacker
Pro Thread Jacker


Joined: Feb 06, 2009
Posts: 2801
Location: Dallas/Ft. Worth, TEXAS

PostPosted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 3:12 pm    Post subject: Re: Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed...

before i can offer anything, I'd ask you what if any religious persuations you two have and how strong those beliefs are.

_________________
The Bushmaster Resale Market...The House That FGB built.

On wierd facial affectations...
mayford5 wrote:
I don't care how progressive casual Friday gets that is still not acceptable.

Roads?....Where we're going, we don't need roads... -Rom 5:1-2
Feedback---> www.icd-owners.com/htm...mp;t=13878
Back to top
View user's profile
Northup
ICDO Supporter
ICDO Supporter


Joined: May 19, 2005
Posts: 1675
Location: Nk. RI

PostPosted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 4:16 pm    Post subject: Re: Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed...

My brother was just talking to me about this, we talked to a bunch of people we know and this is what we heard back it might be helpful to you

Girls have told us not to us engagement dates on special occasions. They want their engagements to be separate, so a birthday might not be great.

Its not to soon if you believe it is the right decision. That being said really think hard about it. There is a lot of things that go into getting married.

Cost is totally up to you. People told me and I have read most people spend about 8-10% of their yearly salary on their rings. But also the cost doesnt matter. You could get her a ring out of a quarter machine and most girls would love it, if there is meaning behind the ring. Spend what you can but no reason to break the bank.

Im sure others will have different and more opinions. Also i feel it is a good gesture to ask her family/father before hand.
Back to top
View user's profile AIM Address Photo Gallery
viper588
Amateur
Amateur


Joined: Oct 07, 2004
Posts: 316
Location: Jersey

PostPosted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 4:24 pm    Post subject: Re: Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed...

Northup wrote:
You could get her a ring out of a quarter machine and most girls would love it, if there is meaning behind the ring. Spend what you can but no reason to break the bank.
I kinda disagree a little. Im sure no matter what you spend the girl is not going to say no because you didnt spend enough on the ring, but they all dream of an expensive ring and want to show their friends and family and you dont want to get her a ring that she would be embarassed to show people. Im not saying to have to get her an obnoxiously expensive ring but i have 3 sisters 2 engaged one recently married and all their rings varied between 7-12,000 so the price can vary greatly. I also rememebr hearing that you spend 3 months salary but if your still in college and dont have a career yet i doubt that applies.
Back to top
View user's profile
maloneoni
Man with no name
Man with no name


Joined: Feb 06, 2008
Posts: 6364
Location: livermore, ca

PostPosted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 5:17 pm    Post subject: Re: Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed...

Many people do the extended engagement thing these days, including myself. I proposed in June last year and we are both college students also. As with your family, our family knew it would be a matter of time before we got married. We barely have a time frame for how soon the wedding will be. Weddings are expensive and when we finally do get married, it will be after I have a job that pays better than the one I have now. As long as you feel comfortable getting engaged, it is not to soon. Just be ready for people to ask you for a date. I tell everyone that we will be getting hitched when we graduate and that seems to satisfy them.

As far as where to get the ring, shop around is my advice. I got the hook ups from a friend who works in a jewelry, but if I hadn't, I would have looked around more. My friend told me that when you shop for rings, look at the three "c's": color, clarity and carret. I ended up spending about 3000 dollars.

Do not go cheap on the ring. All of the stuff that it represents is true, but women want to be able to show off the rocks that they wear. Get something that she will be proud to do that with.

I proposed on a mountain that is in view of our town. That way, when she sees the mountain, she remembers that day and thinks of me.

_________________
cs900 wrote:
a can opener is a good alternative to a sp on off.

63VDub wrote:
I see potential for a CO2 operated tattoo gun...

Beating plowshares into swords.
Back to top
View user's profile
zinger565
ICDO Supporter
ICDO Supporter


Joined: Mar 11, 2006
Posts: 261
Location: Central Wisconsin...Where the cows ARE happy

PostPosted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 5:23 pm    Post subject: Re: Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed...

Thanks for the advice everyone, I'll put it to good use.

Crash1976 wrote:
before i can offer anything, I'd ask you what if any religious persuations you two have and how strong those beliefs are.

we are both catholic, but neither of us are very strongly devoted to it right now.

_________________
Class of 2009! Done!
Feedback
Back to top
View user's profile
Spitlebug
Medicated
Medicated


Joined: Jan 11, 2006
Posts: 3556
Location: Campbell River, B.C.

PostPosted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 5:55 pm    Post subject: Re: Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed...

No problems with being engaged over a period of time. Just don't let it get stale.

_________________

So good, I don't need feedback.
Back to top
View user's profile Photo Gallery
Crash1976
Pro Thread Jacker
Pro Thread Jacker


Joined: Feb 06, 2009
Posts: 2801
Location: Dallas/Ft. Worth, TEXAS

PostPosted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 7:54 pm    Post subject: Re: Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed...

I only ask because that can play a big part in the impending numptuals. I would advise premarital counseling after you are engaged before you are married. sounds silly I know but if you REALLY want to know what your getting into and what you both expect it's the best way.

Regarding the ring...take her out looking at rings casually. Point out rings and guage her reactions, to cheap ones, to expensive ones etc. find out what styles of diamonds she likes and see what lights her up...pay attention.

Talk to her, talk about hypothetical scenarios for proposals, "feel " her out...not "up" for once. You don't always have to come up with dramatic panache to make a moment memorable when you know what she desires. Most of them want it to be a suprise more than anything and for the setting to be at least "classy"....and do yourself a favor and don't have a desert plate sent out with "will you marry me?" written in chocolate at your favorite restaurant. Have the cajones to take a frigg'n knee and do it like a man.

If you really take the time to know her and understand her, this will be no big deal. She'll love the ring and how you propose will be just as memorable.

I for one am not a fan of long engagements. I don't see the point even if you are in college...Just do it. I have known too many people who went ahead and did it while they were still in school and I think it actually makes school easier. 4-5 years is a long time to maintain an engagement with only the commitment of "I will" instead of "I do". If you catch my drift.

_________________
The Bushmaster Resale Market...The House That FGB built.

On wierd facial affectations...
mayford5 wrote:
I don't care how progressive casual Friday gets that is still not acceptable.

Roads?....Where we're going, we don't need roads... -Rom 5:1-2
Feedback---> www.icd-owners.com/htm...mp;t=13878
Back to top
View user's profile
63VDub
Pro Headcase


Joined: Dec 11, 2014
Posts: 163

PostPosted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 9:42 pm    Post subject: Re: Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed...

In almost every way, I agree with Crash and Northup. The meaning behind the ring is more important than the cost, but it should cost. The engagement ring should be financially sacrificial, but not financially straining, as in you should have to cut down on paintball, but not skip your rent to buy it. And an engagement should have a definite end point. Maybe not a specific date, but more of a "when we graduate and start working"

_________________
“Oh, so you think the harness is your ally?
But you merely adopted the harness.
I was born in it, molded by it.
I didn’t see modular electronics until I was already a man,
by then to me it was only blinding.
The harnesses betray you because they belong to me.”
Back to top
View user's profile
Tzarector
ICDO Supporter
ICDO Supporter


Joined: Sep 27, 2005
Posts: 449
Location: Richmond, CA

PostPosted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 10:04 pm    Post subject: Re: Proposal/Engagement Ring advice needed...

Is this a good idea/too soon? I know that it would be quite a while (4-5 years) before we'd even begin to plan a wedding.
-- I would propose maybe 1-2 years before the wedding date. Make sure family approves and you have a talk with her parents or father to get approval. 1-2 years will allow you to get your finances in order. Not sure if her family will bank roll the reception or not. My wife and I had to finance it all on our own so we had to save for a good 2 years. (Also would be nice to have some money on the side so you can furnish your house/apt so you can move in right away, etc)


Any suggestions on where to get the ring?
-- research online. Just like what Maloneoni said... know your 4 Cs. Cut, color, carat, clarity. I hear that hearts on fire diamonds are the perfectly cut, perfect in color and perfect in clarity. I think a 1 carat hearts on fire diamond would run around 6K+.

How much is too much to spend on it?
I think anything over 10K is extravagant but then again, if you're rolling in dough, it shouldn't matter. I think the De Beers created that 3 month salary rule. Had I spent 3 months worth, I'd be super broke. I think you would know best. Depending on your girl, if she's into materialistic things or not, you can kinda guage on how much you think you should spend.

Any ideas on how to do it? I've always prided myself on being romantically creative...but after 4 years of Birthdays, Christmases, Anniversaries and Valentines I'm pretty much plum out of ideas.
- I ended up taking my gf to Lake Tahoe for a weekend retreat. We took a Gondola up to the top of the mountain and I proposed on the summit over looking the Lake.

Hope that helps!
Back to top
View user's profile AIM Address
Display posts from previous:   
Post new topic   Revive this topic   Printer Friendly Page     Forum IndexOff Topic All times are GMT - 7 Hours
Go to page 1, 2, 3  Next
Page 1 of 3


Jump to:  
You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot vote in polls in this forum
You cannot attach files in this forum
You cannot download files in this forum
 

 
Photo Gallery Pics...
Toggle Content

Forums scroll Last posts
Toggle Content
Last 10 Forum Messages

Bushmaster bodies, Custom T2 trigger other misc odds and end
Last post by dwn0414 in ICD Gear Forum on Jan 09, 2019 at 22:35:13

Need some parts
Last post by ssechriest in ICD Gear Forum on Jan 03, 2019 at 16:50:36

3 working Bushmasters f/s *$55ea.*
Last post by ~kaos~ in ICD Gear Forum on Dec 21, 2018 at 16:24:23

Liquidating Sale (Rare Parts, etc)
Last post by Cucukachew in ICD Gear Forum on Dec 19, 2018 at 03:11:27

You are going to encounter NBA 2K19
Last post by Mmoak2018 in PRP General Forum on Dec 14, 2018 at 06:04:57

WTB B2K parts
Last post by Millar156 in ICD Gear Forum on Dec 09, 2018 at 20:20:30

hey all
Last post by xpocad in Off Topic on Nov 14, 2018 at 00:38:35

Moving/I need money sale
Last post by THE_Hulk in ICD Gear Forum on Nov 10, 2018 at 02:02:52

Gen2 Freestyle04, and Scepter barrel kit FS
Last post by RrmyGuy in ICD Gear Forum on Nov 09, 2018 at 07:21:26

Last of my ICD stuff
Last post by dwn0414 in ICD Gear Forum on Nov 05, 2018 at 13:53:13


 
All info copyright www.icd-owners.com 2000-2016. No reproduction of anything on this site is permitted without express consent from ICDO.
GNU Terry Pratchett
Interactive software released under GNU GPL, Code Credits, Privacy Policy